The Map Is Not The Terrain
The idea that we have of the world in our head is only a semi-working model. It doesn't apply all the time.
Every now and then, along will come a random freak event that will knock everything you "know" about the world (more accurately, "expect" about the world) down into a pile of broken shards. If we're not at least semi-flexible, then what do we do? If it's bad then we will often panic.
The old Murphy's Laws:
1/ If something can go wrong, it will.
2/ If something goes wrong, it's bound to get worse.
3/ If the first two laws are passed, and you're still around, panic.
We should remember this: Murphy was an optimist.
Yes, this applies to what we think we know about women in the Manosphere too.
Like anything it mightn't apply all of the time. Just because we take a regularly-observed behavior and it seems to be without exception, doesn't necessarily mean that it will apply in 100.000% of all situations. Even if we can (and do) put that regularly-observed behavior into a neat little box and give it a convenient label with a comforting little explanation attached.
That's the path of flawed logic that we risk walking down: some P is Q, therefore all P is Q. Not necessarily true. It might be an overwhelming majority - yet there might be some tiny, smidgeon of a splinter of a grain of sand which is different.
In the end, you're going to be better off if you are mentally and emotionally prepared for that rare situation where things turn out differently from what you expect them to in your head. We usually notice them more when they're bad, because that tends to walk up and smack us upside the head. Very hard to ignore!
Now, conversely, there is that rare situation where we find an unexpected gem. It could be anything good:
* a gold and diamond ring at a rummage sale
* an old watch that is actually a collector's item worth thousands
* a piece of real estate that is amazingly low-priced
There are people out there who make money this way: filtering through the "normal" to find the "unusual".
In the investing real-estate market there is a saying: "The deal of the decade happens every year." For them it does, because they are actively looking for that exception and are willing to put in the effort for it. They can decide to sell it immediately (flip it) for it's real value and pocket the profit, or keep it as a longer-term investment that brings in money (rent) while it accumulates greater value.
When our heads are firmly stuck inside the boxes that are the mental models we make, we can be easily blindsided by nasty events - and at the same time we don't see the good events, the opportunities for good things out there. We need to be open and flexible to be able to deal properly with both.