I bring you an illustrative graphic that is pure perfection:
Nerds vs Thugs, it's the perfect illustration of life. And not just black life, white and asian and green-skinned-Martian life also.
I find it wryly ironic that the answer to both is the same.
To the young nerd: Stop whining and deal with it. It won't get any better.
To the fat old baby-momma: Stop whining and deal with it. It won't get any better.
For every choice, there is a consequence. For the nerd, it's becoming a very desirable man - so long as he grows up just a little bit and takes no shit. For the baby-momma, it's becoming catmeat - the process literally starting when she gets her Crazy Cat Lady Starter-Kit™: