To be civil, to be benevolent.
I look around, I look within. There is not much civil here - outside or inside - mostly rudeness and using each other for personal gain.
The most commonly-seen women have filthier tongues than most men. If you don't use filthy language, if you are polite and civil, they won't give you the time of day.
We are closer to barbarism than we like to think. Ironically, we also no longer have the skills to survive this barbarism if our civilisation collapses.
Only the criminal classes might survive, preying upon others. Banditry would be most common, since barbarians can survive by themselves where bandits have it easier in larger groups. Fifty will find it much easier to overrun small groups of families and friends, killing and raping and thieving.
The thought of collapse is very unpleasant.