This is just women's whining again. "Don't judge me!" Because they're deathly afraid of being judged.
Wrong. I will judge you. First judgement:
- Why are you demanding that I not judge you?
- What skeletons are you trying to hide in your closet?
So from the beginning: "When you judge another you do not define them..." No, I simply see them more clearly for what they are. Usually as some form of hidden shit - thank you Crap Colored Glasses™.
To the ending: "...but you define yourself." Oooooo shaming language! The implication being that you define yourself as a Bad Person™. Where the reality is that I am defining myself as a person who is not going to take certain types of undesirable into my life. A small thank you to the internal Female To Male Translator.
Now, from the opposite point of view. Women love, love, love to judge men. "Too ugly. Too old. Too quiet. Too weird. Too creepy. Too bland. Too emotional. Too...too...too..."
I love your unthinking judgement of me. Let me rub your face in the two-faced hypocrisy you have so eloquently displayed.