No, this is not a "BPS is moving on from the Manosphere" post.
It's an observation of over the last 4 years or so, plus spending a month or so reviewing the past 12-odd years of my life. Also a few observations from my formative years and all.
Surprisingly, it's also an observation about growth. I'm not sure if Captain Capitalism has put it into his Curse of the High IQ book - I will reread and see. It's easy to do when it's winter here in NZ, after 6pm everything is dark and the fire or heat pump is going.
(Yes, cold. Yes, wet. Thank you Tongan eruption. Weeks on end of rain. Good that I have both a fire and a heatpump, because I'll run out of seasoned wood soon. I need to stock up, double the amount that I had and let it season for a couple of years. Maybe I should triple the size of the firewood shed and triple the amount on hand, to be absolutely certain.)
At any rate, two observations. During your life:
1/ You will grow.
2/ Others will sit in one place.
This is not a condemnation of their choice - MGTOW, that's the path they've chosen. Go for it.
From the perspective of the Man who is growing, you will move on.
As you grow, you will move on to other and (in your personal opinion, per your personal path) more rewarding things in life.
Others will stay in their place.
They might be upset at you moving on. They might not care. From your perspective, it is not relevant.
You have moved on.
In the end you are only a tiny little ripple in the river of humanity. Your moving on will not make any big changes to others. They are where they are, they are doing what they are doing, because that is the path they've chosen.
You have moved on.
Over my life, I have moved on from many things:
* My home town.
* My friends.
* My new town.
* My new friends.
* My new-new town.
* My new-new friends.
* Several communities (some in the real world, some in the internet - 5 in the past 12 years, 3-4 that I can remember in the years prior to that).
Some things you will stay in distant contact with. Family members. I have several extended whanau who are still where they are. I have moved on - though I stay in contact with them. I'm basically forced to, even though we have nothing much in common. They are still in their place.
I do stay in contact with at least one person from one of the prior communities. He's a good bloke, much nicer than I am. We still have a TGIF on Fridays - at least, when we're not working from home or in Covid lockdown. There will be a few people like that. That's good.
Growth demands moving on. Otherwise you become stuck, to sit in one place all your life.
Having moved on from a community about a month ago, I've been reflecting back on things. Moving on seems (for myself) to be a part of growth.
Growing my life (in this case: income) by a substantial amount in the past year, it has been evident to me that it was time to move on. That community was taking a lot of my personal energy and time. Personal energy and time that would be better put somewhere else, for my personal benefit.
I've been asking myself questions: Should I seek another community to become a part of?
Answer: Why bother?
I will grow and move on from it in a few years.
Especially the communities which are rife with nasty people. They're like lice or maggots, they appear everywhere. Remember: You don't have time for that crap. Places, echo-chambers of toxic crap will drag you down and hold you back.
The only thing that you have time for is your personal path. Period. Remember: You Are MGTOW. You are following your path.
Some people are good to stay in contact with. The rest of them in said community though, sad sacks of shit who are in one place. No time for their constant femicunt-inspired drama and horseshit.
In the end, like many things in life, it was time to make the decision. I chose to pull the trigger...
...and Elvis (hah so conceited on my part) has left the building. Silently. No drama. Like a ghost that was never there.
After a month - not even a ripple to remember me by. Good. They are not relevant to me. I am not relevant to them. They will continue, the community and its members going on as always, in their path as mine diverges away.
I have moved on. As will you.
Well now, guess I get filed under the sad sack or not? Email me otherwise bro. Been (dunno if'n you follow) but I'm doing a daily at this point.. and BTW, 6 years ago, this -exact- night is when the X pulled the trigger and I found meselves in the clink, left fucked raw and alone... what a loooooong strange trip it's been my brother from another. If you lost the email, my new one is BCE@coldfury.com as well as the original... would love to keep up the interesting conversations. YOU ackchully, if it matters, helped save me from myself in many respects... never discount your downrange affect on others man...ReplyDelete