This Is Not A Unicorn

From one of the posters over on Reddit/MGTOW: Hardest Thing I've Ever Done.

I just friend zoned my unicorn. It's such a bitter sweet victory, but it had to be done. Even though it hurt, I feel a tremendous weight off my shoulders and I'm going to have the first peaceful night of sleep in quite a while.

Thank you guys for everything you've taught me and the massive strides in self improvement I've achieved in the last year. There's no chance I could have done it without you. Hope you enjoyed my little victory tonight. Cheers.

From the comments:

I'm not sure what do you exactly mean here. Is it someone you just thought it was an unicorn? Someone that was great but never got interested in you until now, after something changed in your life (money, looks)? Maybe is someone you met recently, but still believe it would be better if you just live by yourself?

And the poster expands upon the situation for the above commentor:

The first two. I've known her for about 2 years now, and when we first met I was about as big of a beta orbiter as one can be. Everything was about winning her affection and pleasing her. I even went to the extent of buying her diamond earrings and a necklace for her birthday after she told me she had no interest in us dating, and WHILE she was in a relationship with another friend's brother. I relied entirely on her for my whole sense of self worth and happiness, which often left me in a pretty bad place due to her having zero interest. Then I discovered TheRedPill and MGTOW which completely changed my entire way of thinking. Now everything wasn't about her it was about improving myself. I started going to my schools gym, quit video games all together, started eating better, lost about 55lbs, and started reading a ton. I've been slowly increasing my frame holding ability and SMV steadily since then with a few minor slips here and there, but hey, no one's perfect. 

That brings us to yesterday. Her, her boyfriend, and her boyfriend's brother (my friend) all end up hanging out at their house. For the first time ever I establish and hold a stronger frame than her bf and I saw her react to it immediately. She started getting really cold towards him and a lot closer and touchy with me. She ends up completely blowing him off and spends the entire day hanging out with me and the friend upstairs in a closed room with the boyfriend downstairs talking with his mom and sister. Finally the end of the night comes and she starts expressing her mysterious new found feelings for me. The only mistake I made, was I ended up talking to her until about two AM on the phone. I let a lot slip that I probably shouldn't have including a lot of inner dialogue I've had throughout the past year. Nothing too major, but that's definitely an area I need to focus on improving. 

A large part of me really wanted to cave and go back to wanting to be with her, but I know there's nothing for me down that path. I straight up told her that us being a thing was never going to happen. I said that she made her decision a year ago when she chose her current boyfriend over me, and that even if she broke up with him that night, I'm too focused on improving myself and preparing for my life to have room for her and a relationship. I ended it with saying that we can still be friends, because the way I see it, there's no reason to burn bridges that you don't need too. If I was still infatuated with her I would have cut things off, but I value our friendship and her opinions enough that I don't really see a problem with keeping her around. Plus she's a pretty good reminder of where I used to be and the progress I've made so far in becoming my own man because I never want to go back there.

Read through that and think. Read through the other commentors, some of them are also very interesting. In my opinion the most thought-provoking is this one:

You made the correct decision. If she'll branch swing away from her current boyfriend to you, then she'll also branch swing away from you when the next higher SMV male enters the picture.

She's always looking for the best deal for her dollar (aka the use of her body).

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The Elusive NAWALT aka Unicorn

So I'm revisiting the Yes All Women Are Like That post once more. It's been a long time since I wrote that - over 2 years ago.

My opinion hasn't changed any. Here's why the revisit.

Over on Reddit (/r/MGTOW) a man is wondering if we're doing a stereotype that is basically bullshit. He's looking for the elusive NAWALT, aka the Unicorn. In the responses is what I consider an exceptionally clear explanation of why NAWALT is false and YAWALT is true.

I'm for MGTOW, but...

Reason I say this is because a lot of the MGTOW material I read seems to be about a particular demographic of females, like a young, middle-class, college-educated, feminist-leaning, strongly heterosexual American white girl who frequents bars and clubs and is sexually active. I don't see a lot of the generalized mentalities of female on the non-Western, or the introverted, quiet, shy, asocial, queer or "ambisexual" girls, or women in general who aren't self-aware of what they do or their tastes. 

I tend to think too broad of generalizations—saying "all women..."—tend to hurt credibility. I'm looking for a more specific profiling to pinpoint the whys.

He has a very fair point here. So we need to explain more clearly what makes us state YAWALT, when that is self-evidently and logically not going to be true. It can't possibly be true. Commentor thrownaway_MGTOW nails it thoroughly. Here is what he said, paraphrased and condensed.

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Yes the NAWALT aka Unicorn does exist. However, they are off the market more-or-less permanently - unless their sweetheart/husband is accidentally killed and widows her before 28yo. Why? Because they are already taken and not available - snapped up early they are the real-deal faithful type. They met their match while young and got married by age 21 - probably much earlier.

Equally, anyone "taken" that you see in a bar/club - what the fuck are they doing there? They're keeping their options open, which means that by definition they are a YAWALT. This includes places like MeetUp, MeetMe, church/social/hobby group, etc. They still rode the cock carousel in their time, now they're getting past it and trying to attract a man before the biological clock rings the "your fertility is toast" bell.

These girls were already damaged goods before they got started, moreso now - whether they were fucked by 5/50/500 men. Whether they were "self-aware" or not. [We know the lies that women tell themselves. No women is fully "self-aware". She can't afford to be. - BPS]

Queer or ambisexual girls. By definition they are fucked in the head or they wouldn't be queer or bisexual or weird in this manner. Whichever type, these whack-jobs aren't interested in a guy. Including you. [What the fuck are you even considering these nutjobs as potential NAWALT's? Their only use is as potential threesomes. - BPS]

Introverted, quiet, shy, asocial girls. These are hiding, for whatever reason. It could be they're simply not that interested in guys, or perhaps they're the victim of some kind of abuse. If they're not interested then they're not interested. If they're a victim of some kind of abuse then they're fucked in the head and probably aren't interested in any guy. Including you. You ain't gonna run across them on a daily basis, if at all.

Non-Western women. These girls are happy and pleasant, a delight to be around. [Because they still understand that it's much easier to lure their prey with honey rather than vinegar. A fact that Western women have collectively lost sight of. - BPS] Underneath they are exactly the same as Western women, especially once they are brought into a situation where they have the same options as Western women. To keep them happy and pleasant you need to keep them in their culture and you must remain firmly in control - and pray that the Western culture doesn't spread and ruin it. [Too late. - BPS]

TL/DR: If you didn't marry some "high school sweetheart" you're shit outta luck. Everything left is damaged goods in varying degrees.

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So yes, the NAWALT does exist. Already taken when young. What's left is the dregs and damaged shit that stumbles around in a daze, riding the cock carousel while attempting to rationalize away the bullshit they're pulling.

So practically-speaking, for every woman that you will ever meet (sans perhaps 1-2 flukes in your entire lifetime): YAWALT is the overwhelming truth.