tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6395564333682113597.post6701744578766033402..comments2024-03-12T11:27:58.144+13:00Comments on Black Poison Soul: Why You Should Hide Your SelfBlack Poison Soulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07378635809751908950noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6395564333682113597.post-21191811474810630662015-03-25T11:51:24.973+13:002015-03-25T11:51:24.973+13:00A possibility and some people do that. I think I m...A possibility and some people do that. I think I may have posted about it before, I have seen your suggestion out there somewhere. It is a viable option. After thinking about it I do not favor that strategy because we are then heading into potentially messy territory: explaining. (Plus getting caught out.)<br /><br />When it comes to divorce, women want all the gossip possible about what happened. So they can dispense with their shit-tastic fabulous advice, point out all the places you went wrong, all those lovely little digs that they enjoy putting out plausibly-deniably ("I didn't mean it like that!"). Then they can also feel virtuous that they've "helped" you (in the process of sticking the knife in, another self-lie), that they are not like the loser who dumped you (and thanking God for not getting involved with a loser like you who can't even keep a woman), etc etc etc.<br /><br />In the process you're having to come out with further lies to support that one lie (get caught out), perhaps become uncommunicative or say you don't want to talk about it (labelled as sullen and the like), telling them it's none of their business (labelled as rude and the like). Which is okay-ish if you don't care about what happens socially - however it doesn't sound like a great idea in the medical arena.<br /><br />Where if instead you are saying that you couldn't find The One - you are implicitly stating that your standards are high, plus she (the questioner) doesn't meet them (if she's single). It's a twofer for you. It's simple, it's easy, it goes straight into the hindbrain of the herdthink and doesn't require any further explanation at all. (Unless she's really fuckin' thick and socially clueless.)<br /><br />I'm open to other ideas of course. That's simply my reasoning. As always, each to whichever they prefer: nothing is a one-size-fits-all solution.Black Poison Soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07378635809751908950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6395564333682113597.post-20863883525316987222015-03-25T11:05:30.565+13:002015-03-25T11:05:30.565+13:00Or, he could show up to whatever job interviews we...Or, he could show up to whatever job interviews wearing a ring. If they are persistent in still asking marital status, he could then say he is recently divorced, wife took everything and he lives with his parents. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com